Older Men Dating Younger Women: What Real Data Reveals

Or perhaps he’s just a man of routine , and work has trumped everything else for so long, quality time just isn’t on the top of his priority list. If not, and this is the case, you might want to have a chat—or date younger. You could be projecting stereotypes on to them just because of their age, Hendrix says. If you’re attracted to someone older, Hendrix usually advises her clients to just bounce the idea off of someone you trust first. “We don’t really know who someone is for the first two to six months of a relationship,” Hendrix says. So it’s really important to ask yourself why you’re so attracted to any person, but especially one that’s significantly older than you.

It’s a horror show out there and lady, you MUST be the exception. I am a fairly good looking man with my act together, financially stable with 24 years of a successful marriage behind me. I’m still raising a 14 year old son. Thank you for your refreshing and candid comments. Us women who were discarded and whose husbands of 30+ years must feel good about ourselves because so many of our ex’s will be remarrying before us and most likely to women younger than ourselves. Sex after 50 is all about attitude!

No matter how nice a person sounds online, remember you’re corresponding with a stranger until you meet in person and get to know them better. Here’s a handful of pro tips to keep you safe as you match. Once your profile is complete, you start receiving local matches. “Within every couple, regardless of age, there’s always someone who wants more sex or less sex,” Hendrix says. It’s not a deal breaker…just a tough conversation. dedicated a piece to the expressed reasons younger men love older women.

Even then, what we always ran into was the selfishness, or lack of desire to be better than yesterday. Most women start gaining weight, and then want to guilt or shame you for wanting to be fit healthy and be with someone fit and healthy. I’m a late-50s man who was on the verge of divorce after my spouse celebrated turning 50 by having an affair. She apologized and put forth the usual regrets – and I’ve forgiven her – yet I don’t know if I’ll ever get over it. I now have plenty of new scar tissue, if you know what I mean.

You sound like a great guy and what you seek sounds wonderful. If you were close by, I sure wouldn’t mind having that “sparkling conversation” with you over a glass of wine. Now, I long for just one hour of sparkling conversation. The good and decent among us are truly paying the price. You sound like a good guy and I truly hope one of the few decent women left in the world will find you. I wasnt a drinker,didnt party,wasnt wealthy always clean and tidy nothing like her new man so why enter into a rs with me ?

And if she didn’t, well, she’ll probably seek out financial security in a mate now. I’m NOT saying this as a criticism, just as a fact of life…perhaps in the same way men allegedly only want youth and beauty. Unfortunately I have not had luck finding a good man my age. I have been judged unfairly as well in more than one instance. If that’s the expectation that men of my generation want to have, well fine. That’s probably part of the reason a lot of these guys like to chase after women 20 odd years thier junior — Younger women haven’t figured it out yet and therefore they’re more malable.

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We are both somewhat fit, like to hike and enjoy being outdoors. He and I have shared some odd and humorous dating stories. As for me, I look at every poor choice in a positive way. At the very least, it was a learning experience. I am 50 and I tried a well known dating site.

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I firmly believe that men are just as likely to be victims of abuse as women but men are more likely to physically abuse their partner and women are more likely to emotionally abuse their partner. I also believe that many people in their 50’s either don’t want to admit or don’t even realize that they were abused, especially men. Went on one of these so-called “dating sites” allegedly catering to folks in my age range.

Not reading your profile ( he is a big MAGA guy and you are liberal- yikes!). Ask some questions before meeting in person. What are your absolute deal breakers? See if you can identify any before wasting your time. I’m very passionate about this issue, given the number of online scams targeted at older adults was one of the reasons we started Stitch in the first place.

Regardless of what stage of life you are in, if you and your partner agree on the important things, there is nothing you can’t work through. If you’re dating an older man, you don’t have to worry about what he’ll look like when he gets older. “You already get to see a preview of how the person ages and takes care of himself,” Carmichael says. At this point in his life, he probably has his lifestyle down pat. If he looks and feels good and takes care of himself now, it could be a good sign of how he’ll take care of his health, body, and mind later on.

In the past I have tried to be that with the guys I’ve met online, through friends, or otherwise. As young people, we are fed a line of BS that says that there will always be time, we can enjoy ‘golden years’ together playing shuffleboard and bingo with our friends. If you think I’m exaggerating, go to an amusement park with an eight year old and tell me how you feel at the end of the day. Debbie, I don’t think it will much fun dating from the other side either. At 60, I have re entered single life through no choice of my own. My 44 year old wife informed me a few months ago that she was leaving.

Any such a wide variety of comments. I have just passed my one year anniversary of being divorced. Not sure what the future holds or even what I want from it. My marriage was not good for the last several years so sadly after 26 years together there is not much to miss…the sad thing is I would have stayed and kept trying. However now this year has shown me that closing that door has changed my life for the better as well.

Try to be positive, and when you’ve healed from this relationship I am sure you will attract a good hearted woman. When I contacted men whose profiles I liked they didn’t have the courtesy to respond. I even found that one of the men who had a lot in common with me was engaged to be married, yet still had an active profile going. I admit physical attraction still plays a big part of the original interest. I am financially secure, a good communicator and listener, and sensitive. I always wanted an equal to converse with and also dual support.

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